Support, Stories & Strength for Your Journey

There are a few physical things you can do to support your body before knee replacement surgery — and one for your mind. There is actually a whole lot you can do for your mind, but today we are focusing on the physical and on calming your mind down a little before you get to surgery day.I want to share with you what I did before knee number two — because knee number one and knee number two were completely different experiences for me. Before knee number one I was in so much pain I just wanted to get to it and get through it. It was all mindset because I honestly didn't know what to do to support my body physically. Before knee number two I called the shots. I named when I wanted it done. My knee wasn't as degenerated and there was more, I could do to prepare. That's where I learned what actually makes a difference.Start With Prehab — Your Muscles Are the FoundationThe very first thing you want to do is some form of prehab to strengthen your quads, your glutes, and your hamstrings. The stronger those muscles are going into surgery the stronger they will be coming out. You see this with professional athletes all the time. 

I've had three joint replacements before the age of 50. I'm not a medical expert and I'm definitely not a physical therapist. I'm just a woman who has lived this more than once — and come out stronger each time because of how I approached it.There is one part of recovery that blindsided me every single time. It wasn't the surgery. It wasn't even the pain. It was everything nobody warned me about going in. Here's what I know now that I wish I knew then.The Emotional Side Is Real and Nobody Talks About ItAfter surgery your world gets very small, very fast. You're not working. You're not running errands. Your sleep is disrupted, your routine is gone, and isolation sets in quicker than you expect — especially once the initial support fades and everyone goes back to their normal life.

Same exercises. Same ice. Same stiffness. Here's why the repetition of knee replacement recovery is not a setback — it's actually the work.There was a phase in my knee replacement recovery that I didn’t really see anyone talking about.You are past the scary part. You are not in crisis. But you are also not done. And every single day looks exactly the same. I mean every single one.Wake up stiff. Do the exercises. Ice. Elevate. Rest. Feel slightly better. Go to sleep. Wake up stiff. Repeat.Groundhog Day. Now, I’ve written about this before, right here:

What I Did Completely Different for Knee Number TwoFor years, my first knee was degenerating right under me.And I knew it. I just wasn't ready to do anything about it. I started taking elevators everywhere I went. I made accommodations. I worked around it. I told myself I was fine.I was not fine. I was just not ready to face it.When I finally decided to move forward with my first knee replacement, I went in blind. I didn't know what to expect. I thought a knee replacement was just about the knee. What I learned was something else entirely.This does not just affect your knee.

The person helping you heal is carrying something too. This is for both of you.This one is for the person sitting next to you through your recovery. And it is for you too, because understanding what your caregiver is carrying will change how you move through this together.I was lucky. My husband was steady through both of my knee replacements. But steady does not mean unaffected.I remember the day Chris went back to work. I didn't expect what I felt. The house got quiet and I got weepy in a way I wasn't prepared for. His steady presence had been holding something in me together that I didn't even know needed holding.And looking back, I could have made things easier for him if I had understood what caregiving actually costs a person.What caregiving looks like from the inside

3 Uncommon but Crucial Things to Consider Before You Schedule That SurgeryYou've done your homework. You know about the surgery itself, the physical therapy, the ice machine, the walker. You've Googled "what to expect after knee replacement" more times than you can count.But there are a few things that almost never make the list — and they matter more than most people realize. Let's talk about three of them.1. Your Lifestyle — Can Your Daily Routine Actually Flex for Recovery?

Guess what? Nobody handed me a nutrition plan before my first knee replacement. In fact, I didn’t even think about what to eat. It wasn’t in the top ten things on my mind before surgery.I got a list of what not to eat the night before surgery, and that was about it. And that was mostly about the surgery itself.I didn’t get any guidance on how to prepare my body in the weeks leading up to surgery so it could actually heal well afterward. That information existed. I just had to find it the hard way.So, here’s what I know now that I wish I had known then.Why Pre-Op Nutrition Matters for Knee Replacement RecoveryOur bodies go through a lot during knee replacement surgery. Cuts are made and tissue is moved and sometimes removed. Your immune system goes to work the second that the incision is closed.

You can prepare your home and still not be prepared. Here's what actually helps.I remember sitting in my living room a few weeks before my first knee replacement looking at everything I had gotten ready for surgery.The toilet riser. The grabber. The ice packs. The pillows stacked in all the right places.I felt ready.And then my husband walked in and asked what I was doing. I was in the middle of going through years-old receipts. And I just broke down.The weight of everything seemed to hit all at once. I wasn’t going to get everything done. I felt like I was prepared but not.It turns out you can be completely prepared logistically and still feel an unsettling, quiet fear that you can't quite name.

Why sleep after knee replacement feels so hardNo one tells you that sleeping after knee replacement might be the hardest part.And the thing that I wanna mention is, if you are a side sleeper or stomach sleeper, you may be surprised to find out that you will not be for at least a month, probably two, after your knee replacement.I know this because I was a stomach sleeper before my first knee replacement, and a side sleeper after it, before my second knee replacement.And I have to admit that I was better at sleeping on my back after the second knee replacement than I was after the first.The first knee replacement, I didn’t sleep in my bed for long at all. Maybe an hour, maybe an hour and a half or two hours if I was lucky.

Most people think knee replacement recovery takes 12–18 months of struggle, but the truth is you’ll feel better much sooner while your body is still healing behind the scenes.How long does knee replacement recovery really take?You’ve probably heard this before:“Knee replacement recovery takes 12–18 months.”