knee replacement mindset

I don’t know about you, but for me, getting into bed, moving onto my left side and hugging my little pillow is my ideal sleep position.So, imagine my surprise when I had my knee replaced and was confined to sleeping on my back. If I could get into bed at all. For the better part of two months.One sleepless night, instead of just sitting in frustration, I started coming up with ideas on what I could do. It was very easy to look at what I couldn’t do and sit there. But I didn’t want to stay in that place and in that energy. So, I started looking at what I could do.What I started doing was telling myself, I’m learning.Because I really liked slipping into that position of self-pity. And that absolutely did nothing for my energy. So, every time I felt myself starting down 

Two topics everyone talks about after knee replacement are extension and range of motion. Y'all often hear these questions: “Did you get to 120 yet?”“What’s your flexion?”I do believe that they are both equally important. I don't think one overwrites the other. This blog is gonna focus on only extension.Getting your leg completely straight. That's the goal.With my first knee replacement, extension came back quickly. About three weeks in, I had it. By six weeks my range of motion was sitting at 120 and things felt balanced.My second knee? That had a totally different personality.

Five mindset shifts that helped me move out of fear and into controlHow can we not have fear of the unknown through our knee replacements, right?It’s so crazy, because I caught myself constantly telling myself how scared I was of my knee replacement. And it wasn’t until I stopped saying I’m scared and started identifying what it was that scared me so much that I could get curious about why it was bothering me.This was a process. It took me a while to slow down enough to really identify what I was most afraid of. What I noticed was that if I just kept telling myself, I’m scared, I’m scared, the fear kept coming back. Over and over.

One of the biggest surprises for me after my knee replacement was the fatigue.Sure, there was pain.Yes, there was stiffness.But the fatigue? That one caught me completely off guard.I don’t know why I wasn’t prepared for it, but that bone-deep tiredness that hits after doing something that feels like nothing was not on my radar at all. Taking a shower was the first wake-up call. I’d wash my hair, dry it, and immediately want to sit down. 

As you are sitting there healing from your knee replacement, think about this…What if I told you that everything was going to work out and you will be at 100% in a future that you are so close to?It is. It’s not a lie; I am not kidding.Now that path may not be what you thought it would. Maybe you needed an MUA, maybe you got an infection or maybe you required another revision because the first didn’t take.

I was talking to a client today, and she asked how long it took me to get to 120 degrees after my knee replacement. She’s sitting at 115 right now, feeling like she hit a wall, and I could hear that mix of frustration and fear in her voice.It reminded me exactly what this part of recovery feels like.So, I told her the same thing I want you to hear:You’re not stuck.You’re in a phase. I call it the learning phase.

Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I’ll never get better,” or “I’m always in pain”?Yeah, I used to say that too—without realizing how much weight those words carried.Here’s the truth: your words aren’t just sounds. They’re signals. And they’re either signaling healing or frustration. When you’re recovering from something as big as a knee replacement, every bit of your energy matters. What you say to yourself—out loud or in your head—sets the tone for how your body responds.So today, I want to help you swap those “always” and “never” statements for words that actually move your healing forward.

What if your biggest setback isn’t your knee — it’s your thoughts about your recovery?That realization changed everything for me.I remember the day it hit me. I was about six weeks out from my second knee replacement and realized I still wasn’t consistently hitting zero on my extension. Some days I’d get to 3 degrees, maybe 5 — but never zero. And that tiny number became a massive mental storm.My calf hurt constantly. My foot and ankle were cranky. But the calf pain? It was brutal.And I remember thinking something must be wrong. Something dire.

So you think you should be further along… maybe you’re not even six weeks out, or you’ve just hit that two-month mark, and you’re wondering why you still don’t feel “normal.”Let me tell you something: you are not back to normal—or anywhere close to it—in six weeks.And I say that as someone who’s been through not one, but two knee replacements and with all the love I can muster. When my surgeon told me, “I’ll see you in a year,” I swear it felt like the floor had been pulled out from under me. A year? I was thinking maybe three months tops.But that’s the thing about recovery—it humbles you. It teaches you patience in ways you didn’t realize you were signing up for.

I know what it’s like in the middle of knee replacement recovery when you’re wondering if your body is ever going to feel normal again. I’ve been there—and I’d love to help you with this.When I was early on in my recovery, maybe 3 weeks out, I went to physical therapy with my walker. I remember watching a man walk to the back completely unassisted. Turns out, he was one week after surgery 😱.